Deciding when to end a marriage is deeply personal, but each year, many family law attorneys report a noticeable increase in divorce inquiries and filings at the start of the new year. According to an article published by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), many of its members see a surge in divorce consultations in January—often estimated at roughly 20% to 30% higher than other months—a phenomenon commonly referred to as “Divorce Month.”
This trend appears even in New Jersey, a state that has historically maintained one of the lower divorce rates nationwide. Despite New Jersey’s lower numbers, family law attorneys across the state regularly experience an influx of calls and consultations as couples move from a “holiday holding pattern” to taking decisive steps about their future.
At Snyder Kenney & Mercado, LLC, our attorneys frequently meet with clients who have been quietly weighing their options for months—or even years. If you are considering divorce, we can help you understand your rights, explore your legal options, and take informed steps toward a more stable future when the time feels right.
Why Do the Holidays Put Strain on Marriages?
The holiday season often places unique pressure on relationships. High expectations, busy schedules, and increased stress can magnify problems that already exist. For couples experiencing difficulties, the holidays may bring underlying issues to the surface, including:
- Financial stress from holiday spending.
- Disagreements over family obligations and traditions.
- Conflicts involving parenting styles or extended family members.
- Emotional distance that becomes more noticeable during extended time together.
When a marriage is already strained, the added pressure of the holidays can make problems harder to ignore. Once the season ends, some spouses feel emotionally drained and less willing—or unable—to continue working through unresolved issues.
Why Do Many People Wait Until After the Holidays to Divorce?
Ending a marriage is never easy, and many people delay the decision until the new year for emotional, financial, and practical reasons, such as:
- One Last Holiday Together: Parents often want their children to experience one final holiday season as a family before major changes occur;
- Avoiding Social Pressure: The holidays bring family gatherings and social events, and many couples postpone separation to avoid uncomfortable questions or explanations;
- Financial Timing: December is often the most expensive month of the year. Waiting until holiday expenses are settled can make legal costs more manageable;
- A “New Year, New Start” Mindset: For many, the new year represents renewal and a symbolic opportunity to begin a new chapter;
- Court and Office Schedules: The courts typically have limited hours or closures in December. Filing in January can help avoid administrative delays;
- Preparation: Some individuals use the end of the year to prepare emotionally, financially, and legally for their separation and/or divorce, contributing to the increase in filings in January.
How Should I Prepare to File for Divorce?
Early preparation can help reduce conflict, streamline processes, and avoid costly mistakes. If you are thinking about divorce in the new year, consider the following points:
- Reduce Conflict for the Children: Think through regular and holiday parenting schedules, childcare needs, extracurricular activities, and any special considerations in advance. New Jersey courts will prioritize the best interests of the child in rendering custody determinations, which include consideration of the stability of the children’s households and the parents’ ability to agree, communicate, and cooperate.
- Keep Organized Records: Maintain documentation of shared expenses, household responsibilities, and important communications. Gather Financial Records, including tax returns, bank statements, retirement account information, mortgage documents, and debt records. Every litigant in a divorce matter is required to make financial disclosures by way of the Case Information Statement. Having the financial proofs ready in advance can streamline completion of these disclosures and financial discovery, reducing time spent and legal fees incurred on these issues.
- Avoid Major Changes: Making large purchases, withdrawing marital funds, or moving out of the marital home without legal guidance can complicate your case. Generally, the courts will make the effort to maintain the marital status quo during the pendency of a divorce litigation.
- Consult an Experienced Divorce Lawyer: Our experienced attorneys can explain your rights, outline your options, and help you move forward with realistic expectations.
Considering Divorce? Contact Our Family Law Attorneys at Snyder Kenney & Mercado, LLC Today
A new year offers a fresh start—and for many individuals and families, that new beginning involves divorce. If you are considering ending your marriage, the divorce lawyers at Snyder Kenney & Mercado, LLC are here to provide knowledgeable guidance and compassionate support at every stage of the process. Call 908-574-3081 or complete our online contact form to schedule an initial consultation. Our office is located in Parsippany, New Jersey, and we proudly serve clients throughout the surrounding areas.